4 Common Self-Sabotaging Tactics to Avoid

Do you find yourself repeating behaviors that sabotage your success? Are you ready to put your limiting behavior to rest in favor of a better outlook and greater fulfillment? To do so, you must put this into practice. We often have these conversations with ourselves or hear it from those who see greater in us, but don’t actually take the time to practice what we have been told or what we know.

Time to get your journals out we have some work to do! This is not a simple 1-2-3- exercise you might what to take time like days or weeks. You are working on you it takes time to build a strong MpoweredMe.

The first step to the success you crave is being able to recognize the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of your success. Once you do, you can banish those beliefs in favor of more empowering ones.

Look for these self-sabotaging tactics in your life, so you can replace them with more productive thoughts that support your success:

1. Settling. Settling for less than your best causes you to stop short of unleashing your fullest potential. Sometimes you settle for less because you’re scared of encountering failure. Other times, you may settle simply because you lack awareness of your own strength.

Test your strength constantly by going out of your comfort zone. Face your fears, because more often than not, your fear is the only obstacle between you and ultimate success.

Journal:  Write down three places that you have been told or that you know you are settling in. For each one of those that you wrote down, recognize the fear(s) that is holding you back from settling in this area. If this is too painful or emotional taxing on you, please seek professional help.

Write down a plan for each of your settling places. Take a deep breath in and exhale out. Re-read what you just wrote, take your time, and say these words “I am proud of me!”

Now decide when and how to put this plan into each. Start with just one and take you’re your time until you are successful at conquering that fear. Then when you have conquered it go to the next one.

2. Expecting too much from others. When you automatically expect help from others or anticipate that others will bail you out of a tough situation, you’re expecting too much. You are only responsible for yourself.

Even if your friends and family have helped you in the past, they may choose to let you fend for yourself this time around. Always be prepared to suffer the consequences of your actions and clean up your own mess. Choose a more sensible path that takes into account that you may journey to your destination alone.

Journal:  Write the people in your life that you expect too much from. Take your time and think about this. Try to remember if someone has ever said to you. When you have identified who they are, write the experience. In what way(s) did you expect too much from them?

What did you learn from this experience? Do you need to learn a skill to be self-sufficient? Did you learn from your mistake? What are you doing now to not repeat that experience?

Answer all the questions in detail. Put a plan in action to not repeat you’re your mistake.

3. You feel sorry for yourself. If your current situation causes you to feel like something’s missing, change your circumstances. Instead of dwelling on what could have been and focusing on the unfortunate hand you’ve been dealt, seek to learn from every experience and focus on solutions, instead of problems.

Your success is your responsibility. Hold yourself accountable for your results and allow unfortunate situations to steer you toward success, instead of deterring you from achieving your dreams. By maintaining this mindset, even your worst trial will be far better than remaining on the sidelines of life.

Journal:  Write down the situation that is causing you to feel this way. Write down what you feel in detail. Is it time to let this go? What is it preventing you from accomplishing or receiving by holding on to this circumstance, to these feelings? If this is too painful or emotional taxing on you, please seek professional help.

Take a deep breath in and out, ready to continue? What plan can you put in place that to let go and to heal from the feelings you have? If you have written your plan, be proud of yourself. You are courageous and you can do this. It is time to heal. Time to implement your solution, your plan.

4. Lack of a second plan. If your initial plan gives less than desired results, your only chance at success is your ability to adapt. Everyone needs a Plan B. You may feel like a pessimist by planning for an unfortunate outcome, but this planning is actually proactive. It shows your mind that you’re serious about reaching your desired destination.

Ensure your financial security, mental health, and well-being by always planning for the worst while hoping for the best.

If you often find yourself doing any of these self-sabotaging behaviors that hinder your chances of success, decide that today is going to be a new day. The important thing is that you recognize the thought patterns and behaviors that limit you and head in a new direction that supports your success.

Replace stinking thinking with a productive, solution-oriented focus that tells your mind you deserve the success you seek. When you do, your success is inevitable.

At MpoweredMe we are here to provide you with the right tools for the right mindset. If you would like to dive deeper into this or any topic email me at ready@MpoweredMe.net.